Every Day I Love You More: Just Not Today

Ideally this book should be read one essay at a time, savoring each one and trying to apply it to one's own life. Instead I can't wait to get on to the next one. She's a very inciteful, observant young woman who obviously is a good student at observing human nature. I find myself in every essay, and sometimes just laugh out loud. I always marvel at these people who can take the ordinary little things that make up each of us and express them in the written word.

When I came across Nancy Shulins's book, Every Day I Love you More, I was on a retreat from marriage, hiding out for a couple of hours in a bookstore. I'm not a fan of "relationship" books, but something about this one attracted me. (I think it was the subtitle--Just Not Today.)When I sat down to read, I was hooked. Had to buy the book. When I was done, marriage no longer seemed like the worst idea anyone had ever had.When I read her account of those days "when grotesque crimes of passion actually start to make sense," I was laughing and didn't stop. By the time I got to the part where her husband brings home bubble wrap as a gift, I began to realize that what I had been retreating from was not my partner but my sense of humor.These essays are not all about the author's marriage. She seems to have corralled all her friends, somehow convincing them to reveal the saddest,happiest, and most absurd moments in their own marriages. I think she must be one of those rare women people love to tell their stories to, then delight to see the spin she has put on them in print. If she produces a sequel, I have a story or two to tell her.How is this book different from others of its kind? It's way funnier, not at all smug, and far from authoritarian. I think that for her, marriage is something like a vaudeville act made up of flexibility, resilience, and a few pratfalls. As Nancy Shulins puts it, it's "a little song, a litle dance, a litle seltzer in your pants."

There is a special magic in Nancy Shulins writing. She gets to the heart of marriage and the many nuances of behavior therein that leaves you laughing and some times crying as she shares her experiences. We woman can relate to much of what she says and men can too. A must gift from mother to daughter to sister to friend. This book is a sure winner and a joy to read.

Nancy Shulins has beautifully and poetically captured the essence of relationships. She understands the unversality of our experiences in relationship, and writes, with humor and pathos, about...what we love about our partners in life...and what we hate about them. It was as if she were speaking directly to... and about me and everyone else I know. It was wonderful to read a book that felt so personal...I felt completely understood!

During the courtship, magic rules the universe. However, the morning after the marriage, reality often nukes the magic disappear. EVERY DAY I LOVE YOU MORE (JUST NOT TODAY) provides a series of essays so that the magic never vanishes, but instead reenergizes as a thriving loving partnership. A happily ever after non-fiction work seems like a boring sure loser, but Nancy Shulins turns her material into an amusing, intelligent, and educational read that varies from story to story. Each of the essays is relatively small so that the reader can pick up and put down this self-help book as warranted. No essay is boring as they run the relationship gamut with the shared goal of "loving more today than yesterday, but not as much as tomorrow" instead of "where did all the flowes go"?Harriet Klausner