Don't Call That Man!: A Survival Guide to Letting Go

When it turns out that "the one" actually ain't, letting go can be near-impossible. The only way to do it is the title of this book. Don't. Call. That. Man. That's it. The great thing about the book is that it's not that simplistic -- she goes into why we call, what we're trying to do, what we fear, what we lack, and how to heal. She's like that really great, intelligent friend who you never seem to listen to, but hey, you paid for this one, so you go and listen to her. At least that's how it worked for me. Highest recommendation from an ex-codependant who needed some (ok... a lot of) help breaking away.

Loved this book! It's clear, to the point, no-nonsense and actually has a healing effect when reading it. It tells it to you straight, on how to break the vicious cycle of non-commital and ambivalent men in your life. Dump that guy and stop hoping he'll change. Move forward to a better healthier, and happier relationship.

I'd like to first say that eventhough this book was written by a woman for other women it should not be limited to just women. Except for the references of how women relate to their fathers and/or mothers everything else can be applied to someone such as myself who is having a hard time letting go of someone I deeply care for. I, as a gay man, can relate to the same relationship angst and struggle with letting go of the fantasy of the future I had planned out with him. Rhonda really struck a chord with The Ambivalent Man. I highlighted almost the entire chapter and almost the entire book seeing a lot of parallels in my situation and what she wrote about. I believe that the man I love is ambivalent about his feelings and that is what caused him to run and what caused me to pursue. I highly recommend this book to anyone dealing with the loss of a love and who is having a hard time of moving on with their lives.I'm dealing with the urge to contact him and with this book I feel like I will have the strength and will power to make it through and NOT CALL THAT MAN!!!!

Rhonda Findling's book is a magnificent survival guide in helping women break free of unfullfilling, frustrating, go no-where relationships that just seem to keep us "stuck" for some reason. These relationships may bring us a lot of happiness in some ways but are flawed in some way or another. We know we need to move on but can't extricate ourselves and have tried and failed as has happened to me. Rhonda has given us a roadmap to follow to guide us out and help us move our lives forward, even allowing for some backsliding. She helps understand why we stay stuck or hooked, how to move through our loss and deal with it. We gain insight into our behavior through the thought-provoking exercises at the end of each chapter. The chapters are very well-written in easily understandable language which provides with a source of comfort in working through this very painful time in our lives. Rhonda provides us with many good ideas in her Ten-Step Program to Not Call That Man and 50 Things to Do To Not Call Him. The book has truly been my survival guide to "Letting Go".