Discovering the Mind of a Woman

Buy this book, read it, and HEED it! It will not be an easy read. Ken Nair warns the male reader that he will be tempted to throw it in the trash, and challenges him to allow his WIFE to read and mark what rings a bell for her. If you are a Christian husband, the Bible commands you to live with your wife in an understanding manner (1 Pet 3:7) Ken Nair can HELP you understand because he has a TRULY remarkable understanding of the mind of a woman. There are several examples in the book (taken from his counseling ministry) where he accurately predicts a wife's thought process before even meeting her, MUCH to the husband's shock. Here are some quotes from the book: "The biblical teaching that the wife is part of God's accountability structure to help us become Christlike is astonishingly threatening to men everywhere, especially to men in spiritual leadership roles... I am constantly astonished thea men in spiritual leadership roles never seem to have read Philippians 2:3-4 in the context of their responsibilities in the home... Contrary to popular notions, most wives do not want to occupy the throne in their marriages. A wife wants her husband to be her spiritual leader, but she is designed by God to feel secure only when she sees that her husband is not the final authority in their marriage, that he is looking to God for direction and guidance. Only then can she be confident that her relationship with her husband will be based on scriptural piniciples and not on her husband's personal preferences which she recognizes can be prejudiced or selfishly morivated. Rather than argue with her when a husband discovers that his wife truly feels that he is prejudiced or selfish, he should be willing to learn what he can do to change in order to restore her confidence in him. From God's perspective, becoming Christlike is more important to a man that developing a home government in which the husband is established as king. And more important than being the boss is having the character traits of mercy and justice.... The Christian community seems to have wandered so far away from the idea that Christians must be like Christ that it's as if this is a new calling" "I'm sure you have heard many preachers and Sunday school teachers say that we as Christians ought to be Christlike. But I didn't find anyone in my experience as a Christian who was teaching or demonstrating how to rigorously apply Christlikeness to the husband's role in the marriage relationship or to the father's relationship with his children." "If we do not accept the responsibility for providing Christlike spiritual leadership, we will also be incapable of receiving the messages God is trying to convey to us through our wives. Not living with our wives in an understanding manner carries two consequences: we do not receive God's messages for our spiritual growth, and we make it difficult , if not impossible, for God to regard our prayers (1 Pet. 3:7)" "Sure, go ahead and insist

I would not normally even read much less write a review on a self-help style book...but then I would not normally have been able to win back my ex-wife and family either. This book was revolutionary, not just revelationary.Read it, believe in the underlying biblically-based principles outlined in it, and then live by it, and you may actually be able to restore your relationship as well.

Whether you are thinking about getting married, currently happily married or going through marital hardship, you must read this book. I have read many a Christian marriage book in my day, but came away disappointed in the pop psychology cloaked in Biblical teaching that fills so much of the Christian bookstore shelves. Frankly, I had become highly cynical of the pat answers and spiritualized Christianese that I have endured far too many times. And along came this book during what is a very trying time in my own marital relationship. It is challenging me to the core to be a real man that acts the way Christ would to my wife.This book will strike at the core of who you need to be in your marriage. It may tick you off because inside, you will know that what Nair is saying is right, but you have not been Christlike to your wife in various ways. Believe me, if you live by its advice (which is purely Biblical without being trite), your marriage will only benefit. You will have to gulp down your pride to learn what it is like to be a real husband, despite what our messed up culture is shouting at you daily. If you want to do your wife and yourself a great favor, you will buy this book now. Don't think about it, don't waffle over it, just do it. You will be glad you did.

Like most men, I was clueless about how I was negatively affecting my wife through our 18 years of marriage. That is, until my wife literally crumbled in front of me and asked for a separation! A friend suggested I read this book, and it has revolutionized my thinking about a whole lot of things. First, Ken Nair explains in clear and compassionate (non-confrontational) terms how it is our responsibility as Christian men to care and nuture our wifes as God intended--and demonstrated to us through Jesus Christ in His own relationship with the Church. Second, Ken goes on to illustrate examples from his counceling background and it provides real hope for us men that God can work us through these difficult times if we stop, listen, and obey the Biblical underpinning of his book. Finally, I have never found a book so easy to read, so personally challenging, so interactive, and so encouraging. I am re-reading the book to let it soak in some more! I know that if you struggle with intimacy issues (and I do not mean sexual intimacy) you must read this book and examine yourself before God. Ken leads the way, and his example in this book is so clear that it can guide any man into a postive, nuturing, and more fulfilling relationship with his wife. I can't say I'm out of the woods yet, and I can only pray that God will continue to bring healing and restoration to my relationship with my wife (and I would covet your prayers on this), but I can't imagine where I would be right now if it had not been for this book. Very, very highly recommended.

I have never read another book so stunning and eye-opening. It took me several copies of this book to get all the way through it; I kept getting angry and fighting it. But when its contents finally got through to me, it changed my life. I did not know that a couple could be as happy as my wife and I are now. We are in our twenty-seventh year of marriage, but happier than ever thought we could be! THANK YOU KEN NAIR!