Claiming Your Self-Esteem: A Guide Out of Codependency, Addiction and Other Useless Habits

I find myself constantly recommending this book everywhere. "Claiming Your Self-Esteem" has definitely changed my life. Before I read this book, I was a very codependent person. What drove me to buy this book was a petty argument with my coworker. Additionally, I had been driving my boyfriend crazy with my constant self-doubt and dependence on him, bringing people down with my negativity, and scaring friends away with sudden overreactions to trivial things. Within two months of starting to read this book, I start to grow into a more loving person: truly understanding, much calmer, and finally with self-love. What makes this book work is that it not only says what you need to do and points out the benefits of loving yourself, it also teaches you HOW to do love yourself. This book has taught me how to how to confront and fix my old problems (that I used to always run away from), quiet the internal negative dialogue (that constantly plagued my mind for most of my life), how to meditate and listen to my body's cues, and (probably the most important) how to forgive myself and love myself unconditionally. As a result, I've also learned how to get along better with others, and I am much more aware of people's behavior because I understand my own behavior. I have been reading this book for only 5 months, but I feel like I have grown so much since then. Thank you, Carolyn Ball, for writing.

The reason I found this page is because I went online looking for the authors email adress to thank her. You dont get much more of a recommendation than that. The diference I feel within 3 days of buying this book is amazing. Its true it the first 'self Help' book I have bought. However this book feels like it was written just for me. The examples and explanations of Low Self Esteeme and what it does to you, is so exact, that it makes me disappointed that I havent done something about myself earlier.Carolyns writing feels like a friend trying to help. The writing is clear ,simple ,kind and motivating. Its simple to follow and I love the fact that she describes how things work and why they happen. To me ,if I understand something, I can work with it.As my heading states.. If you even thinking you need this book.. then just buy it. The best $$'s I have ever spent on myself.Thank you to the Author.Rob

This book has been essential in my desire to break out of the constant dance I found myself in with a sociopathic person. It establishes criteria for co-dependent behavior through bulleted lists and examples which thereby enable you to objectively realize situations you seem to find yourself in and often wonder why. This book not only identifies the symptoms we all seem to focus too heavily on, but also on the ever more important problem that creates the symptoms. By identifying these problems and understanding why they occur, you are better equipped to begin making substantial changes in your life. This book prevented me from falling back into the same self-defeating patterns and create a new life for myself. My highest recommendation and thanks.

this book is the answer for the person who is tired of living for other people and other people's desires - and ready to live for THEMSELVES and THEIR OWN desires. it points out how addictive behavior can show up in many different ways, but is really just covering up for low self-esteem ... and then it takes you through PHYSICALLY TRANSFORMING exercises which let you get back to the basics of what YOU feel ... not everyone else. this book is a life-changer if you are ready. my highest regards to dr. ball.