Brothers, Lust, and Love (Revised and Expanded Edition): Thoughts on Manhood, Sex, and Romance

This book was wonderful! Just simple honesty from a Black male. What made this book stand out was that there was no male or female bashing nor manipulation; just the truth from Mr. July's standpoint. This book is full of information to help you understand past and current relationships as well as to help you in your future. A true eye-opener, and discussion-starter.

I should go to work for Mr. July OFFICIALLY because I have sold more of these books than a few!!!I am preparing to become a marital & family therapist, and I have recommended this book to literally hundreds of women I talk to in chatrooms, on-line, at church, the girls I mentor, students, my sister... Any woman who is having man troubles and needs insight into the dating game, I recommend this book HIGHLY!Mr. July's conversational style makes for an enjoyable read.The thing that separates this book from the other relationship books that manipulate and play on women's fears about being alone is this: Mr. July not only exposes the games men play, but he also gives insight into the female rationale for staying with and repeating dysfunctional patterns with men they claim are the bane of their existance. If you read this book with a heart to learn AND change, you will walk away a stronger, more enlightened woman.Happy Reading, Sisters! :)

This was probably one of the best relationship books I ever read, and I'm not just referring to the fine brother on the cover(although that doesn't hurt!)Mr July is open and honest, even when the truth may hurt a little bit. Never condenscending, always entertaining. I wait with baited breath for his next book.I have gained new insight on men after reading this book, I guess you could say that it sort of restored my faith in men. Hey ladies, they have feelings too!

Mr. July's personal experiences and revelations are as close as one could possibly get to the "truth in print" regarding the stereo-typing, daily struggles, and often-time confusing but heart-felt attempts to find love, from the perspective of an African-American male. "Brothers, Lust, and Love" is a two-fold read. Mr. July encourages a coming-together of the sexes... by way of defining the desires and fears of most African-American men in their daily lives and personal relationships... while seeking to instill and encourage a new wisdom and understanding from African-American women. Mr. July covers issues ranging from the sometimes awkward elevator ride (unacknowledged greeting) between the sexes... through understanding the emotionally detached "tin-man"... through color and/or complexion prejudices within the African-American community... through his personal quest for spirituality and love. A definite must-read for both sexes!!!

After being a fan of both of Nathan McCall's book, I took the time to really enjoy reading Mr. July's work. About midway through the book, I wished I could have read it a few years ago because it would have saved me a lot of trouble. But, I'm putting the information to good us as I prepare to be married in a few months. I love the fact that this book is written in very simple term amd is not biased. Just when you thing Mr. July is about to take the brothers side, he comes right back. Many times it seems that the book was written for a woman, but when closing out the final chapter you know it is a book that you want to pass on to all your friends to reed. The problem with that is you would probably end up buying it again.