Before I Thee Wed: A Guide to Help Engaged Couples Prepare for Marriage

My husband and I read this book during our engagement. We would go for long drives and read chapters to each other and discuss the questions at the end. The Selfs, who wrote the book, counsel couples on the verge of divorce after their 1st year of marriage. They took the "if only I had knowns" from their counseling sessions and made them into discussion chapters. This way you WILL know before you get married. The book covers everything from "Are you a saver or a spender? (and then let's make a plan for our money now)" to "Where are we going to spend Christmas, with your in-town relatives or his relatives that live 3 states away?" That didn't mean we had all the answers when we got married, but we weren't dumbfounded when the questions came up. Fifteen years later, still HAPPILY married.