As a leading cognitive behavior therapist, Dr. Barry Lubetkin has heard every excuse there is for staying in a bad relationship: "The time isn't right." "We have to stay together for the children's sake." "It's too late to start another relationship." Created out of fear and guilt, these rationalizations can lead to depression, phobias, and psychosomatic illnesses. But the real problem-- your desire to get out of the bad relationship-- is barely recognized. In "Bailing Out" you'll discover whether you should get out of your relationship, and if so how to make the leap. "Bailing Out" is filled with daily logs, checklists, exercises, and more, including: Step-by-step survival techniques for weathering your breakup Compelling case studies from people who have been there A do-it-yourself "Fear Buster Chart" to help you pinpoint those things that are standing in your way-- and show you how to counteract them with healthy actions Relaxation techniques to help you cope with the anxiety of those first few weeks of sleeping alone, a leaner bank account, single parenthood, the fear of AIDS, and the high cost of divorce But perhaps the most important message in "Bailing Out" is that you can free yourself from a bad relationship-- and happily, healthfully, and confidently survive.
This is an outstanding book for anyone who is even THINKING about leaving their relationship, and is at least as good as TOO GOOD TO LEAVE, TOO BAD TO STAY. I wish I had had this information sooner, but definitely better late than never. They offer excellent advice about how to prevent repeat this tragedy of ill-chosen people for mates. I personally hate leaving, hate saying good-bye, and have a strong need to take responsibility for what is happening in my relationships by owning my part and doing what I can to improve the relationship. However, perhaps I've done this TOO much with the wrong people, and I've paid for this. Extremely healthy people may be hard to find, but aren't they worth waiting for, and in the meantime I have more to give myself when I ensure that all of my associates and intimates are healthy and nurture me. I think I'm way more likely to get what I want out of life and relationships when I choose wisely in this manner.
Great Reading! So timely!
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 23 years ago
This book just hit the spot for me. What is so great about this book is that it gives you the tools which will lead you to ultimate acceptance and freedom...from your toxic relationship.The authors were quite candid that it takes (cognitive-behavioral) work to heal yourself and that it takes more than overnight.I strongly recommend this book to anyone who is grappling with a not so perfect relationship. Frankly, I couldn't put the book down IT WAS THAT GOOD.
Bailing Out: The Sane Way to Get Out of a Doomed Relationshi
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 24 years ago
This book was very helpful in the termination of my marriage. Both I and my ex-husband read the book, which made the transition so much easier. I have since purchased this book for my mom, my two daughters, my son, and myself a few times, because I keep loaning it out to co-workers, and they want to keep it. I highly recommend it to anyone who is in a bad relationship and doesn't know how to get out.
Go ahead with self respect and with autosteem
Published by Thriftbooks.com User , 24 years ago
Best book to have a good way to go out from bad relationships, is like you have a personal doctor with your personal treatment, help you to find out your own solutions and motivate you to go ahead loving yourself, and helping you to understand a better way to love, to live, to breath, to be happy, please give you a chance to recover your integrity, your phisical and emotional health...
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