Avoiding Mr. Wrong: (And What to Do If You Didn't) ?. Paperback

Wonderful insightful book. It seems so simple, that you would be able to spot these men a mile away and run the other way but not true for some. This book has explained in clear language with a touch of spiritual aspect but not too much. Very real and straight to the point. I suggest this book for women of all ages. A must read.

This book, writen from a frank, but Christian perspective, lists the types on men to avoid, what they look for in a partner/victim, why the women themselves are drawn to these losers and how to work through the issues to eventually create a better relationship (except if the man is violent). The 2 end chapters also give tips on how to steer clear of "Mr. Wrong" to begin with and hope on making the existing relationship a healthier one. Mr. Arterburn's disclosure of his past mistakes, dry humor and case scenarios make this book a must-read for women who want to empower themselves, gain insight into these types of "men" and start on the path to "Mr. Right", and it will help the men who are open-minded enough to want to correct their flaws. I highly, whole-heartedly recommend this important book.

I have shared this book with many, many friends and their daughters. I share it in the hopes that it will keep others from marrying a Mr. Wrong. I am recently divorced, however, I began to read this book while separated from my husband. It helped me to better understand the dynamics of my marriage and my relationship with my husband. The power of this book is beyond measure. RED FLAG: NEVER MARRY SOMEONE WHO IS IN A HURRY TO MARRY. He may be a deceiver who is afraid that you will find out who he really is, so he hurries you. GREAT ADVICE: INTRODUCE HIM TO ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY, BE OPEN TO THEIR INPUT. Mr. Wrong will try to keep away from those who will be honest with you. I now look at relationships in completely different ways, and often times find my self saying .... he is a deceiver, he is a momma's boy....etc. I will continue to read this book over time to avoid meeting a Mr. Wrong and marrying him. One critical feature of the book is identifying characteristics that are changable and those that are likely to never to change and are potentially dangerous. This is a must read.

I originally bought this book for my daughter who is attending a university. As a father, I realized that the thing that's even more important than having a great career or making a lot of money is to have a godly life partner. I realized that I came from a 3 generations of Mr. Wrongs. My great grand father was Mr. Addict (alcohol), my grand father was Mr. Eternal Kid, and my father is Mr. Angry. My grandmother still talks about her father-in-law, how she had to carry him home on her back when he couldn't walk home ! I almost turned out to be a Mr. Wrong myself, but through grace of God, I've turned out to be mostly Mr. Right for my wife (at least that's what she tells me). I still have much to improve. This is a great book for guys as well as for gals. I am using this book to teach a class at my church and it's useful for healing wounds caused by all the Mr. Wrongs in our lives.

This book is an excellent way to encourage women to analyze a relationship with a man and to realize that making emotional decisions may not be the best way to proceed if she is interested in a potential Mr. Wrong. I see Avoiding Mr. Wrong like a giant yellow light screaming "caution!" as it is whipped by the wind swaying to and fro in a busy intersection. Life is hectic and far too precious to waste trying to "fix" a man who fits the description of one of these guys in the book. Women will gain valuable insight reading this and re-reading it in order to comprehend the complexity of these destructive personality types. It's too easy these days to be fooled by Mr. Wrong out of naivete'or a tendency to be gullible, especially if a woman is attractive, intelligent and has a great personality or charisma and a tendency to attract the Mr. Wrong types described in the book. For the emotionally "needy" woman this book is a MUST. Reading Avoiding Mr. Wrong will not only cause her to take two steps backward away from Mr. Charm (who may have honed in on her neediness) but it will validate every woman's feelings who is or ever has been involved with a Mr. Wrong. Any woman who digests the contents of this book will certainly be wiser in the future. For the single woman, she may also consider reading Boundaries in Dating by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend. For the married woman, just now realizing she is married to Mr. Wrong, she may gain valuable insight by reading Don't Let Jerks Get the Best of You by Paul Meier, M.D. which I'd rate 5 star as well. If she has married a man displaying jerklike tendencies or Mr. Wrong characteristics less than 50% of the time and he is willing to listen to her, it would be beneficial for the couple to study Boundaries in Marriage, also by Drs. Cloud and Townsend. The Boundaries series of books rate highly (4 or 5 star)too. If the husband isn't interested, I highly recommend women read Boundaries in Marriage anyway. We can all use the relational skills these books encourage and possibly even help a Mr. Right who is on the Mr. Wrong fence to fall to the right side. Even if you have already sampled him in person, at least reading this book will definitely help you feel better knowing your feelings have been validated by professionals!) MR. WRONG is not just a figment of your imagination as the authors clearly confirm with well written, detailed scenarios and common characteristics sprinkled with verses from God's Word. These valuable Bible references distinguish Avoiding Mr. Wrong from a male basher book since it is obviously written from a Christian perspective. For women who like to listen to live radio call-in talk shows focusing on building & nurturing significant relationships, the books I have recommended above were written by authors, Drs. Paul Meier, Henry Cloud and John Townsend who can be heard giving valuable advice daily on the "New Life Live!" national radi