Another Chance for Love: Finding a Partner Later in Life

The too soon intimates, like those of the Baby Boomer's in their hindsight, if truthful, might have approached their lives much more like their parents, at least from the perspective of choosing a mate. So many divorces implies that the choices were less than careful to begin with, suggesting that intimacy may actually impede the process of finding "the" one with whom life can generally always be a joy, and where hardships simply make a couple closer, and strengthens their relationship. The major contribution of fantasy films that draw shallow significance and convert it into meaningful philosophy cannot aid a culture for whom gender differences are already in crisis and where men are taught by society to be patriarchal kings. Inevitably, it is women who do the growing up over the years, and realize the lack of fulfillment much like the slave society discovered the power and pleasure of freedom. Women who read too much emotion into the sexual convenience of males, and attempt to snare them into matrimony are likely to find considerable disappointment years later when life has failed them. It is as great an argument for celibacy as their ever was, and better than most. Even without celibacy, fathers rarely insure their daughters well being and physical care as they once did releasing both men and women to go it alone, and try to take care of themselves, a lottery of accidental proportions. The problem has left millions searching for what they might have had years earlier with greater scrutiny of the persons they chose, having made mountains of lemonaide from lemons. The alternative is that they might have listened to their mother, (or of lesser prominence, their father since most of those are too anxious to get rid of the responsibilities of daughters today and fall into the social traps). The possibility of finding a mate better suited to their personalities is possible, but arduous, and obviously takes more honesty and effort than was devoted to it initially, when "whole lives" are before them, and time is their friend. At older ages, the promise of love comes about slowly, if at all, and with greater appreciation for the personal values of potential mates, at least for women. Many men are seduced into searching for their youth and often find themselves victims of the younger mate's desire to start families, and discover they must do it again whether they choose to or not. The expectations of older mates nearer each other's age is among the most difficult, but also among the most satisfying of relationships since true compatibility is always the objective, and unreasonable expectations have long fallen by the wayside. To most humans, this amounts to being truly loved for your mind and heart, if you are female, and for your perspective and your faults, if you are male. Because the wildness of sex is generally not a part of the decision process, human attraction must rely upon all of our other parts to emphasize our humanity and our tenderness to

Sometimes it just takes a reminder that the world is full of people who want to connect with other people, and that it is possible to nurture a really close friendship that will be - in itself - very rewarding. All good relationships have a close friendship as the foundation, so what better way plant the seeds for a romantic relationship? And the more seeds you sow, the more likely one is going to thrive and bloom.This is a good read, very inspiring, and very down to earth.

This book combines inspiration with practical, sane guidance. Finding and sustaining love is always a challenge, and the older you get, you more you can become dispirited over your chances of ever finding a suitable partner. Another Chance for Love takes the unusual stance that it's actually friendship that is the answer. Seeking out, valuing, and deepening friendships with reasonably suitable individuals may lead you to a longterm, deep, and abiding love that will make your earlier quest for fireworks seem shallow. Gordon and Shimberg discuss values, trust, communication, humor, and passion (not just for sex, but for life) - among the aspects of a good friend. Relaxing into the safety and flow of an authentic friendship, they explain, is more likely to lead to something richer than if you begin every official "date" with unreal expectations.