Andrew You Died Too Soon

This is a very helpful book for people who have lost a son particularly when it was by suicide. I felt that if people of such strong faith (a Bishop and a ordained pastor) had the same feelings as I, I guess I was not "out in left field". We were given this book when we lost our son so have given it to other friends in similiar circumstances.

This is a classic story which gives knowledge and support at a time when we feel so alone and confused. My copy was given to me by someone who herself needed the knowledge and who now buys copies to give as needed. I am doing the same. If I have it in hand, I can share it immediately - no waiting. An amazing writer.

I found comfort in this book but, being Christian was not offended by the MANY referrals to scriputures and psalms quoted in the book. I don't know if survivors of other faiths would share in this or be uncomfortable about the multiple references to Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.I could also see anyone who is really ANGRY at God right now for the suicide of their loved one being irrate at the references but, may find it helpful later on in their grieving process.I cannot say I would reccomend this book for all.

The Chilstrom's son, Andy died by suicide in 1984 at 18. This book blows away some myths about suicide and tells a very personal and revealing story of the author's family learning (by experience) more about suicide and grief. Her experience and writing can help many who must deal with similar facts--or friends of such a family--especially people of faith. Not only for suicide survivors, though, consider reading this book if you have adopted children.For me it was a good read--I knew Andy Chilstrom as an aquaintence when we were both teenagers--because I now better understand his struggles. You will, after reading, seek out your own children for a long tender hug and kiss.The author's husband was the presiding bishop of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America from '87 until a few years ago. He was a bishop of a Minnesota Lutheran synod during the book's events--so in many ways, they were public people and had to deal with the baggage that accompanies that fact.