A Guide to Divorce Mediation: How to Reach a Fair, Legal Settlement at a Fraction of the Cost

This is an excellent introduction to the world of divorce mediation presented by experienced and insightful practitioners. Their approach responds to those truly interested in a thoughtful, sane, and non-adversarial approach to a very difficult process. This book introduces the reader to a mediation approach that shows respect for the true needs and interests of both participants. It challenges the combative and vengeful litigation model so often promoted by attorneys who convince their clients to seek every possible advantage regardless of the short and long-term impacts of such an approach. It also challenges models of divorce mediation that replicate the adversarial and coercive qualities of litigation by seeking to manipulate the parties into quick "voluntary" settlements. The model presented by Friedman and Himmelstein seeks deeper understanding and the resolution of conflict only when both parties truly feel satisfied with the results, a difficult goal, but one that can reasonably be achieved with their approach.The book begins with an excellent summary of the goals of mediation, how it differs from litigation, and the special role of the mediator. It then presents a dozen short case studies, based on actual mediations, to highlight different issues and conflicts that may arise in a divorce mediation, with helpful discussions about the dilemmas. Is mediation the best approach for the parties? What happens when the parties can't break out of their anger and resentment? Suppose one of the parties is far more assertive and articulate than the other? How can mediation promote a fair settlement instead of one that is imposed on the parties? Through these case studies, you are transported to a mediator's office and are able to listen in on the discussion between the parties and the mediator. You learn why the mediator chose are particular approach and how the parties were able to resolve their conflicts.The authors are two of the most experienced and highly regarded mediators and educators in the field. Their experience and wisdom shines through every page. Learning about the basics of mediation from these professionals will enable you to walk into a mediation process informed and aware of the process and its potential. And it will help you screen out those mediators who are more interested in quick fixes instead of your long-term interests.One of the best introductions to divorce mediation that you can find. Highly recommended.