10 Great Dates Before You Say 'i Do'

A friend of ours recommended this book to us when we got engaged.... we went through the book while going through marriage couseling at church. We found that this book allowed us to talk about relevant topics at our pace and it gave us the guidance that we needed to discuss topics in great detail. We just bought this for a family member that just got engaged too!

My husband and I met with Natelle and Curt twice in the fall of 2005 before we were married in summer 2006. We also used the 10 dates in the book. I am so glad that we took the time to answer all of the hard questions and to "lay it all our on the table". We discussed everything from sex and finances to religion and how to fight fair. I didn't think that we really needed to do premarital counseling because I assumed that we already knew each other well enough to get engaged. However, after we were married my husband lost his job (for a year!), we sold our house and moved to the 'burbs and had a baby. These are all stressful and exciting things to happen. We never would have made it through all of these events without the help of this book. Our marriage is stronger than ever. I credit this book with saving us.

If you are thinking of or planning on getting married this book is fantastic. My husband and I got it about 6 months before we got engaged and went through the 10 dates. It is a great conversation starter and just plain fun to plan dates (especially dates that focus on your relationship rather than wedding planning which can be consuming!).

I liked this book and it was good for my boyfriend and I to go through at different times during our relationship. The book brought up important topics that need to be discussed before you make the committment of marriage. The book brought up some very touchy subjects between us and also started some heated discussions but it ultimately brought us closer together which is what we needed. We don't have everything figured out of course but we are steps closer to having a good solid foundation to our relationship which will carry over to our marriage.

My fiance and I are currently reading through "10 Great Dates Before You Say 'I Do'" and we both are learning a lot about our communication styles and issues that need to be discussed before our wedding day. We are in a couple's bible study group and have used one of the dates as a group in order to have realistic expectations, hopes, and dreams. This book is a great way to share your ideas and realize some fun and interesting facts about your partner. The book set-up is great because it actually sets you up to go on a date. First you read the chapter (my fiance and I usually read it aloud together), then after the chapter it tells you to go to a specific location that is ideal for discussing the chapter (of course, this is optional but always fun!). At the back of the book are worksheets that both you and your significant other fill out and then together on the date you discuss your answers in regards to the topic and chaper that you read. A great way to open up communication... At the end there are bonus dates that encourage you to continue practicing what you have learned throughout the week. A great tool! One of my favorite things to do as I prepare for marriage...