10 Bad Choices That Ruin Black Women's Lives

I picked this book up after a friend suggested I read it. I read a chapter a day until I finished the book. Dr. Cornish compiled some things we as black women tend to do (she even admitted making some of the same bad choices) outlines the problems, and offers wonderful suggestion to help us STOP making the same bad choices. Bottom line is you have to be willing to hold yourself accountable and admit you are making these mistakes, and be willing to stop them. She will tug at your heart when she discusses the deaths of her mother and Aunt to men, and discusses how their bad choices played a role in their deaths. Six out of every black woman are either in bad relationships, share a man or choose to be celibate. Are you one of those six women? I also feel this book is not just for black women. I think any woman can read this book and find something in this book they can use to help them make wiser life choices. In this book she will discuss: 1. Sisters Dissin Sisters ? I wish every black woman would read this chapter!!! It's time for the madness to stop!!! We need to stop talking about each other, and really learn to love our fellow sisters. 2. No Money, No Honey 3. Exchanging Sexual dealings for loving 4. Looking for Mr. Right in the Wrong Places 5. Using your finance to maintain his romance 6. Staying on, although the respect is gone 7. Loving the "Married Bachelor" 8. Emotional dependency, plus unplanned pregnancy 9. decent proposal/Indecent disposal 10. Getting to the Church before time One or more of these chapters will wake you up and make you take stock of your life. Take stock of the choices you have made, and hopefully you will make better choices in the future. This is an excellent book!!!

I didn't write a review for this book initially, but now I will. I am first sorry that some ladies didn't care for this book. Perhaps she got the examples from the various talk shows she has done in the past, but to be honest, I don't feel that there is nothing we will never know enough of, and this book as well as her sequel to this book is one of the best there is. Of course, we may tend to feel that we know what we need to know to make it in this journey call life, but I feel there is always something out there to know and understand. Now, I read about Claudette and how her husband said he wanted a divorce temporarily so he can get his citizenship, and then he would remarry her??? Now, that just floored me. I wished Dr. Cornish had some more feedback on her, To me, he wasn't coming back.Ever. I don't feel this book is for just the young ladies, some of us "mature" ladies need it too. Don't diss the book, be glad that this woman want to educate her fellow sisters and make them better for the journey. If you feel that you can't use the book, then for goodness sake, get the book for someone you know who could use it, like that younger sister or friend who may need it. And don't call it a novel. This is a non fiction book to inform and empower. We are not getting entertained here. I put this book in my list of books the sisters(or any woman) should use on her journey called life and I feel that it is a useful guide. Don't discount it.

WELL LET ME BEGIN BY SAYING THAT THIS BOOK HAS CONFIRMED SO MANY THINGS THAT MY PASTOR HAS SAD MANY TIMES BEFORE...YOU MUST FIRST LOVE YOURSELF..WHILE READING THE BOOK, IT FELT AS THOUGH DR. CORNISH WAS TALKING DIRECTLY AT ME. ALTHOUGH I HAVEN'T EXPERIENCE EVERYTHING THE BOOK DISCUSSED, THE THINGS THAT DID REALTE TO ME WAS RIGHT ON...I WILL BE 24 IN DECEMBER AND I HAVE ALREADY BEEN MARRIED AND DIVORCED AND NOW I AM LIVING MY LIFE AS A SINGLE PARENT AND I THANK GOD FOR GUIDING ME IN THE BOOK STORE TO PURCHASE THIS BOOK...I HONESTLY BELIEVE IF YOU HAVE FAITH IN GOD AND BELIEVE IN HIM FOR ALL THINGS YOU WILL HAVE WHAT YOU ASKED FOR...DR. CORNISH, I THANK YOU FOR MAKING ME FEEL MORE RADIANT ABOUT MYSELF. I RECOMMEND THIS BOOK TO BOTH MALE AND FEMALE..WE CAN LEARN SO MUCH ABOUT EACH OTHER IF WE WOULD TAKE HEED TO WHAT SHE IS SAYING...AGAIN I THANK YOU FOR THE "COUNSELING SESSION".

This is a wonderful book for any African-American woman who has dealt with abusive and rocky relationships with black men.After the author discuss various senarios, at the end of the book she wonderfully points out that we should not go through excessive changes to get men in high places. We need to love ourselves first, and then everything else will fall in place. In God's time.With a lot of self-love, we can become women of high achievement, on our own! On our own merit! Scary, but I know it to be true. I was once one of the sisters outlined in this author's book. I had the have the man with the BIG JOB, the BIG CAR, the BIG BANK ROLL, ETC. I learned the hard way, instead, of basking in someone else's spotlight create your own! The author brought this point out thorougly.I never met the author, but it was like my best girl friend was speaking to me. I will definitely recommend this book to my sister-friends, nieces, and other women. I will also buy this author's next book! Actually, I look forward to its publishing.One last thing, this author lost her mom at an early age through the hands of her mother's abusive boyfriend. She actually witnessed her mother's murder. Through time and her father's love, she made it through. Just think, that alone should be encouragement for us all. This is a strong sister, a survivor! YOU GO GIRL!!Your sister-friend,MaryAnn Jackson, San Diego, CA

I only wish this book was around 20 years ago. After reading this book I now really understand why life choices are so important. This book is a reality check and will definitely put you on the right track to receive joy and happiness in life. God bless you Dr.Cornish for telling the real truth about women making positive decisions for happy healthy lives that will benefit our families and our communities. This is the best book I have read in years!